[ PRIDE MONTH EDITION ]
1. How old are you & where are you located?
I’m 33 and live in Denver, Colorado, USA
2. Tell us about yourself and your coming out experience.
I made a new friend recently. Bonnie is 87, has a wonderful laugh, and is a delight to talk to. She’s also the first person in a long time who didn’t know I was gay. A few months back she said something nasty about the “homosexual” living in her building. I was heartbroken. I had never heard her speak that way about anyone.
Is this what she thinks of gays? Is that what she would think of me? Suddenly I was 14 again, scared that my parents would stop loving me if they knew.
So I came out to her. It was hard. It was awkward. I briefly wondered if I should have stayed silent. I almost did. I still hang out with Bonnie. It’s been hard to erase the memory of her face when she talked about her neighbor. But I’m not a frightened 14-year-old anymore.
5. How has toxic masculinity affected you personally as a member of the LGBTQ community? How have you/are you working to grow from it?
6. What would you like to say to your younger self or readers that relate to your story?
There is more love for you in the world than you can possibly imagine.
7. How have you witnessed your own manhood (or manhood as a whole) evolve in the last few years?